Monday, December 1, 2014

Do you allow others to speak?

Conversations between two or more people are increasingly becoming one-sided. Everyone is talking and no one is listening. We no longer listen to what others are saying because we are too busy listening to our own voice. When we appear to be listening, our attention is already elsewhere, thinking what we are going to say next and waiting to cut in.

Why is it that what we say is always more important than what we hear?

When someone is talking, it is necessary and courteous to keep quiet and listen. When we don't listen to what the other person is saying, it shows our lack of good manners, our self-centeredness, our indifference towards that person, and our cavalier attitude. 
Talking more and listening less is a compulsive disorder.

Those who don't listen to what others are saying and are in the habit of interrupting while others are talking are obsessed with themselves. Many don't even realise they are being annoying or anti-social, especially at official meetings and conferences, where setting a time limit for each speaker will allow everyone to speak his or her mind without interruption.

Good listeners make good leaders. The more we listen, quietly, calmly, attentively, the more we put people at ease and the more they are drawn to us.

Moral of the story: Listen, listen…LISTEN!